Inspirational Dating Guidance

Spiritual Dating Guidance
to Help You Get Married

Dating Tips for Singles

No one wants to expose himself or herself to pain.

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In the beginning of the date
it’s important to focus on the good,
to begin again new,
to make an effort and think with an open mind:
This could be the one…
But don't focus to much on "This is the one."

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Then comes the next date and all of the excuses!
“I’m not ready.”
“Being single is great.”
“I want to fall in love.”
Overcome them!

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If you’re still waiting to hear bells,
maybe there’s something wrong with your hearing.

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Top Dating Tips for Singles
in Dating Overwhelm

Don’t focus on yourself on the date.

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Don’t rely on your own strengths.
Be willing to be open and vulnerable.

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Too much choice is no choice.

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Beware of overchoice.
Focus on what you have in front of you.

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Don’t compare your date to other people you have dated.
Don’t imagine that someone better will come along next time.
Get to know the person and see the beautiful person he or she is.

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Jewish Single Dating Tips

The Jewish world is family oriented.
The dominant culture is anti-family.
Non-Jewish values prevent Jewish happiness.
Money, career, success.
How important are they compared to building a Jewish family?

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Give yourself a time limit and be flexible!

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Compromise is the essence of relationship.

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Limit your non-negotiable requirements to three.

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More dating guidance
for Jewish dating singles
and anyone who is interested in
spiritual dating wisdom

Remember to express gratitude to your Shadchan (matchmaker)
- or whoever set you up on the date.
Even if it didn't go well,
that person still made an effort on your behalf.

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Attraction grows with knowing the person.
If you are not immediately attracted to the person,
give it a chance to get to know the person.

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The mindset for dating for marriage should be:
I must get married;
therefore I will find the right one.
~Not when I find the right one, then I’ll get married.

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Adapted from a lecture on singles dating advice by Rabbi Hanoch Teller
"Inspirational Dating Guidance"
Feb. 15, 2003 Los Angeles

© 2008 Rae Ekman Shagalov All rights reserved.

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